When you're grieving you don't want others to forget that you're still there. You fear getting to the point when people don't pray for you anymore or when they expect you to act as a "normal" person. If you have to be there in that place, you want others to remain in their support role - even if it's only to understand that you are still there.

As time goes by, there are days when you are tired of crying and you want to hope. There may even be a day when you can't feel sad. You begin to allow yourself to look for some purpose and on those days you want others to talk about something besides your sorrow. (The poor people that must support grieving people! What a difficult place to be!)

Then one day you realize that you had several good days in a row and for some reason you feel guilty. You feel that if you don't grieve every day, you're not honoring your loved one that died. Somehow you feel that moving on is forgetting, but it's not...it's healing.

Healing happens one day at a time. It's a blessing to have a good day, and three in a row is a sign of a victory in your future. God wants us to be victorious. Bad days along the way are inevitable, but each good day is a gift from God and is an indication that there are better days ahead.

So next time you feel guilty about the days you don't feel so bad, or the days you have a happy heart - STOP and praise God! Acknowledge him in those days and thank him for the baby steps to healing that he is blessing you with. Victory is on its way!